I get so excited on days when everything clicks as far as being a mom goes, but – someone call DFACS! – yesterday was not one of them. I threw my back out trying to get my 2-and-a-half-year-old out of my baby’s exersaucer, promptly hobbled over to the refrigerator, kicked it as hard as I could, and let out a GD. Very nice. I am still trying not to think about all the things I taught my baby girl by reacting like that.

I try and remind myself that the reasons I am really upset have nothing to do with my child: I am in a hurry, trying to do too much at once, frustrated at an adult who said he/she would help and has bailed out on me, etc. I also try and remind myself that the point is not to make mistakes but to rebound immediately, shake off the guilt, learn from it, and do better next time.

And the reason I am posting this is because I think it is so important to let other mothers know that we all make mistakes. Once upon a time, if someone had told me a story like that, I would have smugly thought to myself, “How horrible to curse in front of your child and scare her like that! I would never do that….” Not anymore! >:)

Thanks for another great post, Lauren!

I finally finished “cooking” my half-baked post on this very same SATC scene!
http://www.lifewithlilybird.com/home/2010/6/12/moms-without-help.html

I do wonder sometimes how we “moms without help” do it? I imagine a drink with a girlfriend in a $22,000 a night Abu Dhabi hotel room would help!

It’s the hardest thing I’ve ever done and it’s the best thing I’ve ever done. I make it my mission to be the “Miranda” for all new moms I know because I was so desperate for honesty when I was going through it. I needed a Miranda around and all I got was Charlottes and it made a hard time a lot harder. So. I talk about how hard it is all the time. And I see the relief on new mom’s faces and that makes it worth it. But I understand the desire to want to do this one thing GREAT. So thank you for this post. Btw, haven’t seen SATC yet- my little guy would never sit still for that long!

I saw SATC2 at 10am on Saturday after a particularly tough week mommy-wise. I headed to the theater with an insulated mug full of coffee. There may have been some Bailey’s in there too, but I’ll never tell. By the time this scene started, my eyes had stopped twitching, my toes had uncurled, and my mind was blissfully thought-free. Okay, yes, that was the Bailey’s. I was soaking up the brainless indulgence that was SATC. Then that scene blindsided me. I totally wasn’t prepared for that kind of substance. I laughed, but I cried too. And then I cheered. I will absolutely buy the DVD when it comes out. Because this mommy has had her share of crying in the closet. But I wouldn’t trade it for a second. Wow. I just wrote so much more than I intended. Thanks for another great post, Lauren!

Haven’t seen the movie yet, but can perfectly picture this scene. How great, that SATC addresses this motherhood dilemma!

I’ve always been a Charlotte. Even if I resist it sometimes, it’s pretty clear to my husband and friends. (And isn’t that what we love about SATC, how different and yet lovable each of the four characters are?! We can relate to them in such different ways.) I can only hope and wish for close friends – like Charlotte and Miranda have one another – who allow me to let my guard down.

You do rock.

That was THE best scene in the entire movie. I cheered too. 😉

I don’t know SATC, so the exact reference escapes me. But – motherhood IS hard. We’ve grown up without our extended families being involved, so everything falls on our shoulders, and we have no external validation.

My mom was not comfortable being a mom. I was no comfortable being a mom. If I had it to do over again, I would not have kids. Suffering PPD 3 times, without knowing what it was, or that there was help, was devastating.

For those who have help, or who are surrounded by helping family, maybe life is not AS hard. But for first-time moms today, hard is as easy as it gets.
(Sorry if I sound bitter).